Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #355

I’m grateful for the opportunity to expand my capacity to love. Moment to moment, I can choose to be in this space. I’m overwhelmed when I think about the fact there is always more room to love, especially after I became conscious of what love was and wasn’t. When I’m fully aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace, my capacity to love and be loved has NO limits. The more I recognize the love within myself, the more I open up to love and to be loved by others. My heart feels full just typing these words.

Living from a loving place is a journey I’ve been on since 2016. It’s not always pretty, but it’s all about being the love in the world that I want to see more of. Living from love or fear is a choice I make with every breath—unconscious or conscious.

Today, I commit to taking action to expand my capacity to love. When I love myself wholeheartedly, I have a brighter light to shine out to the world. Being self-critical and not facing the unhealed past can limit my ability to give and receive authentic love. The unhealed parts can taint love with fear. I have to do the work in order to expand my capacity to love, and a part of that is showing myself the love and respect that I deserve.

I make actions choices to show myself love while also making choices to give and receive love to and from others. The beauty of taking action to show myself love means that I don’t put expectations on others to do what I’m not willing to do for myself. Loving myself in action creates natural boundaries, almost like a light force field around me. Having this helps me take those steps to give and receive authentic love in action. It also helps me to stay out of the old stories that creep up, which are aligned with the energy of fear, lack, and separation.

Taking action to expand my capacity to love is not about an expectation to receive something back for what I do. If my actions are fully aligned with love, I will attract love back to me, but that doesn’t mean it will come from where I think it will. I will know if I’m aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace by the stories that are playing in my head about myself and others.

When I’m at the height of feeling the energy of love, abundance, and peace inside me (what I recognize as the state of AWE), I send loving energy out to people I love, trees, animals, etc. It’s my way of giving unconditional love to the world. I see it as putting out the energy I want to see more of in the world.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021, Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World available in audiobook, ebook, and paperback (click title to learn more)

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #33

I’m so incredibly grateful for all the amazing examples of people who truly are the example of living life from the energy of love, abundance, and peace. If there weren’t for so many amazing examples of humans, I wouldn’t be writing what I am today. My heart is filled with gratitude as I think of these people’s influences on my life. My bookshelves are packed with stories of these amazing people. I’ve seen many live, on Ted Talks, and on You Tube. I have them in my life as walking examples. So many incredibly blessings that remind me that it is possible to live in the energy of love, abundance, and peace no matter what the circumstance. For that, I’m SO grateful. It was from some of these amazing people that I learned how to feel without being the prisoner of my feelings. I’m forever grateful to all the people who helped me see that a better life isn’t outside of me.

I’m full-on committing to the energy I want to see in the world today. One of the best ways to do this is to find people who represent the energy. When we watch people who inspire us, our energy lifts to a higher level instantly. If I feel my energy shifting to fear, lack, and separation, I will do the work to make sure I slow down enough to breathe through it and find thoughts that bring me back to love, abundance, and peace. I will feel and process my feelings with love and compassion. I will be conscious of where I’m putting my energy in what I’m watching, reading, thinking, and doing. If I slip from time to time, I will be compassionate with myself and keep doing the best I can. Here is something to think about, if we say we want peace, we can’t be creating chaos in our thoughts, words, and actions towards ourselves and others.

With Love, Gratitude, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2020

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Who Is My Reader?

When I was asked in the marketing meeting about who I wanted to read my book, I thought every woman could get something out of it, since it covers romantic relationships, family, parenting, career, spirituality, addiction, unhealthy belief systems, and all things self. I also thought men could gain a lot of understanding and get a lot from it too, because it would not only give them tools, but help to better communication and empower themselves to make positive change in their lives.

For those who struggle in any unhealthy belief patterns, it gives tools to get out. For those who are healthy, it may help them see how their belief systems help them and give them a better understanding of those who struggle.

The book celebrates authentic empowerment. “Empower Yourself, Change the World!” When we see our own value, we lift others up and don’t tear them down. Authentic empowerment comes from love not fear. It’s about representing what we stand for and not putting our energy into what we are against (VERY IMPORTANT in today’s climate).

The marketing team said I needed to narrow it down to the one reader. Who was the one person I wanted to get through to with my book? I had the picture of the exact person in my mind. I want to get to the woman who is stuck in patterns of abuse, whether it be self-abuse or abuse from others, because self-abuse tends to lead to abuse (mental, emotional, or physical) from either bosses, partners, children, etc. We can accept from others the level of abuse that we give to ourselves.Some unhealthy patterns were passed down so unconsciously that we have to dig down to see them.

The book deals with what belief systems got us into the patterns that get us to act against ourselves in our lives and how to change them. There are so many reasons a person can choose to pick up the book, but if I can help that one person see their value and give them the tools to lift themselves out of living a life they are not passionately in love with, I’ve helped to make the world better.

When we help others see their best selves, it creates an unstoppable ripple effect. I would have never been able to write this book, if I didn’t have every experience I did, read every book that I did, and believe everything that I did. I’m continuously learning how to better myself, and I will until my journey here is done. With that, I’m able to continually give others seeds to help lift them as I get lifted.

At the time of this post, March 3, 2020, it’s been two weeks since Letters from a Better Me has been out and a little over that for the audiobook, and the audiobook is still in the Top 100 for Domestic Partner Abuse (link). My heart feels full knowing that people are getting the seeds I’m giving. I hope they choose to plant them and that they flourish into beautiful flowers. Life is precious, we each deserve to live lives we love.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff

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90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 78 – Using Self-Reflection When We Are Triggered

90-Day A Better Me Series

Part III: Living the Journey

Making the Now Count: Rebuilding our Lives

Day 78: Using Self-Reflection When We Are Triggered

“Self-reflection is the school of wisdom.”

-Baltasar Gracian

One of the best tools I ever received about how to become a better me through my relationships with others was by looking at others like a mirror. If a person triggers us—There’s a connection. Sometimes we are connecting to a part of ourselves that we don’t like, haven’t accepted, and/or hasn’t healed. People are our doorways to personal growth. Sometimes the person reminds us of someone from the past who we felt hurt by and that pain hasn’t healed so we take it out on the person we are interacting with now. These unhealed parts of us are creating toxic build-up within our bodies and our energy fields. Whatever way we cut it, if we emotionally react to someone else’s behavior it is affecting energy inside of us. No one is responsible for that energy but the person looking back at us in the mirror. The people who trigger us are our teachers. We have something important to learn from the interaction, and it’s not about the person’s behavior and/or words. It’s about our reactions to their behaviors and/or words. They are the storytellers of their own stories, and that isn’t our business. Our business is what is happening inside of us and how we are projecting our energy out into the world.

Once we are clear with what is going on inside of us, it makes it possible to have healthy communications with others. Even if they decide to stay in their darkness—We have the power to bring our light to the situation. In order to get there, we must first self-reflect.  Self-reflection is the only way we can decipher what is our stuff and what is their stuff. Once we know that—Life becomes so much less dramatic. Oh, and if you have kids, they are GREATteachers! Kids can get us to go DEEP into our self-reflection pond if we are open enough to REALLY look at ourselves.

“The greatest of faults, is to be conscious of none.”

-Thomas Caryle

20 Questions to Help You Dig Into Self-Reflection When You’re Triggered

  1. What characteristics about this person are creating me to have a negative reaction?
  2. Do I see any of those characteristics in myself?
  3. Do I see any of those characteristics in a person from my past?
  4. Is my reaction REALLY about the person in front of me?
  5. Why is what this person is doing or saying right now affecting me negatively?
  6. What qualities do I like about this person?
  7. Do I sense any jealousy or envy within me about what they have, what they do, whom they are connected to, and/or how they communicate?
  8. Is the person I’m interacting with being her/himself and I’m reacting because I’m expecting them to act differently than she/he is capable?
  9. Are my expectations of others really my expectations of myself that I’m falling short on?
  10. Is it my place to judge someone else’s journey?
  11. Who’s stuff am I reacting to—Theirs or mine?
  12. Do I have the power to change the other person? NO—The answer is ALWAYS NO.
  13. Do I have the power to change my perspectives? YES—The answer is ALWAYS YES.
  14. Is my reaction causing my tightness, discomfort, and pain? If so, is what I’m feeling serving me?
  15. How can I change my thinking to move myself to operating from a loving place inside?
  16. How does this exchange have the power to help heal past wounds?
  17. How can I help myself to stay in a place of peace while interacting with this person?
  18. Can I communicate/act from a loving place in this moment? If not, silence is the best option.
  19. Am I representing the energy I want to project out into the world in this moment?
  20. What actions can I take to shine my light in the darkness of this person’s words and/or actions?

Just keep in mind, we are NEVER responsible for the energy of others, but we are ALWAYS responsible for the energy we are putting out into the world through our feelings, thoughts, perspectives of truth, and actions. Self-reflection is the only way we can heal our energy and make sure we are projecting the loving energy we want to manifest out and reflect back to us. We reap what we sow.Make sure you are holding yourself accountable for your reactions to others. When we master our triggers—We know internal peace. Only then can we manifest peace around us. This is the path to becoming the change we want to see in the world around us. We can’t fix what’s outside of us, until we are operating from the best place inside of us.

 

With Love and Gratitude,

 

Rachael Wolff ©2019

Don’t forget to read today’s companion piece: 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 78 – I’m Triggered! Using Self-Reflection to Heal My Energy

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 58 – Manifesting Love in My Life

Letters from A Better Me

90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

Part II: A Journey of Perspective

What Launches Us Forward: The Stable Foundation

Day 58: Manifesting Love in My Life

Dear Self,

We are in this together. In order for me to manifest love in my life, I have to project the love out of me. The more love I project, the more I will manifest. If there was ever a reason to commit to loving and respecting myself—THIS IS IT!

I want to manifest not just more love in my life, but more love in the world. I want my energy to be part of the great force that helps shifts the energy of this planet back to a more loving one. I want the love to project out me to the point where I can feel the love in the air. I know that the only way to do this is to show myself the love that I want to feel in the world.

I’m committed to having a love affair with you! So lets start courting. Today, lets go enjoy a walk for sunset. We will pay attention to the reflections in the water, the birds flying, and the sounds nature has to offer us. I love that kind of stuff. Tomorrow, I will treat you to an amazing lunch with your favorite foods. I also want to make time to meditate, so that we can connect. Each day, I plan to invest the time in you that I would in someone else I was falling in love with. This includes writing you notes as a way to show you how much I love and appreciate the time we have together.

I’m already feeling my energy shift just by the simple thoughts of focusing on the things that I like to do and can do without someone outside of myself. This is going to be a beautiful journey.  I love knowing that I’m FULLY responsible for the success or failure of this relationship and only I can fix it.

Today I’m grateful

  1. I’m so incredibly grateful for being able to manifest love.
  2. I’m grateful for knowing that I’m in control of showing myself the love and respect that I deserve.
  3. I’m grateful ability to project out the love that’s in my heart.
  4. I’m grateful for manifesting incredible shifts in my life.
  5. I’m grateful for the passion to have a love affair with myself.

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me

Rachael Wolff ©2019

If you are trying to understand why this letter is written like it is, please read today’s installment of the 90-Day A Better Me Series90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 58 – Manifesting Love through Self-Love