Quotes That Make My Soul Sing #29

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”

Jim Rohn

That is exactly right.Since I am the example of how I want others to treat me, how I’m treating my body is one examples I’m showing them. If I abuse my body with toxins, I’m attracting outside toxins to me. If I abuse my body by not taking proper care of it with healthy food, exercise, sleep, and water, I’m showing others I don’t value the very vessel that carries me through this life. I’m projecting out that I don’t show myself the love and respect that I deserve, so you don’t have to either. When I take good care of my body, I’m always amazed how much better I feel all around. I love the quality of the people I attract around me from this place.

With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff, Author of Letters from a Better Me

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #308

I’m grateful for the wellness-minded. I love when people consider the whole of a person and not just any ONE area. I love when I can discover ways to take care of my mind, body, and soul in a wellness-minded fashion instead of reacting to a health concern or emergency. Wellness-minded people pay attention to how their emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, social, occupational, environmental, and financial aspects of their lives all work together to live healthy wholehearted lives. I love keeping myself educated in all these different areas of well-being. I’m definitely stronger in some areas than others, but that is where my appreciation for other people’s journey’s takes hold. I get AHA moments of how the different areas connect all the time. I’m fascinated by how the mind works with the body to create wellness, good health, sickness, and disease (dis-ease). I can only move further along on my journey of wellness by remaining open to learn, change, grow, and expand through listening to other people’s experiences.

The more tuned-in I am to my wellness, the more I recognize when I need to work on particular areas to reach my optimal energy alignment—love, abundance, and peace. I don’t figure all this all out on my own. I read EVERY DAY! I get outside assistance when I need it. I do my best not to contribute my energy to places that will feed my energy of fear, lack, and separation. My focus is on fueling my energy of love, abundance, and peace. Wellness-minded people are the ones who help me, which is why I’m so grateful for them.

Now, there is always a shadow side of every human. Even certain wellness-minded people can get lost and consumed by the energy of fear, lack, and separation. Just because someone is wellness-minded doesn’t mean they are perfect and perfectly balanced in all these areas of their lives. We are all on a journey. One person may have focused a lot on one or a few of those areas and really struggle in others. They are on a journey just like me, we are all just doing our best to live wholehearted lives. I’m NOT going to agree with all of their perspectives of truth, but that doesn’t mean that I’m not open to appreciate what does resonate with me.

Right now especially, I find many people are stuck in a black or white zone. I see a lot of all-in or all- out thinking. I lived there as a teen, which led me down a very dark path. It took me over a decade to figure out the damage I was doing to myself with that black and white thinking. When I opened up my world to the grey, I truly began to understand the value of a concept I learned in AL-ANON, take what you like and leave the rest. That has become a mantra I use on a regular basis to remind myself to listen openly to others. I pay close attention to where my energy is aligned. If I’m making a choice out of fear, lack, and separation, I know I’m not focused on my wellness. I’m fueling energy that will create dis-ease in my mind, body, and soul.

Today, I commit to living wellness-minded. I decided today is a wonderful day to focus on my wellness journey. It’s been a long time since I wrote down where I was and what my goals are for each area of my wellness. I find that it’s good to look at each area and see where I am, how I’m aligning that area with the energy of love, abundance, and peace, and figure out my goals for each particular area. Here’s my plan:

  1. Take out some paper and a pencil—When doing this kind of work, I find physically writing things down helps me connect more.
  2. Write the different areas out with plenty of space to write under each one. I will probably use two pieces of paper and have two to three areas per side: Emotional, Spiritual, Intellectual, Physical, Social, Occupational, Environmental, and Financial.
  3. For each area, I will ask myself these questions: How am I taking care of myself in this area of my life? What energy am I aligning with the majority of the time in this area—Love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation? What would help me align with area with love, abundance, and peace? What is my goal for this part of my journey?
  4. I will wrap it up with a prayer thanking the Divine for any messengers, signs, and assistance that is sent to align me with the energy of the love, abundance, and peace in each area. I will also ask for help deciphering what is coming from the energy of fear, lack, and separation and what is coming from the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

I find that when I set-up seeing clear messages of love, abundance, and peace or fear, lack, and separation, I’m shown VERY clear messages, signs, and assistance. For example, many things I’m reading right now are showing me where my thinking and beliefs are still tied to lack. I see it clearly because I will either read the word, “lack” or someone will say it while explaining something. The energy of fear, lack, and separation is ALL a part of fear, but just thinking about fear, I found that I was missing the parts of fear that were tied to lack and separation. Breaking it down helps me see it all more clearly. This is also why it’s important for me to look at all the different areas of wellness. They are all a part of wellness, but breaking them down helps me to see each area a little more clearly. I might be feeding one area constant love, abundance, and peace, but then in another area I’m still connecting my energy to fear, lack, and separation, which is why if something coming from that area triggers me, I might slip into the energy of fear, lack, and separation fully and go down a negative spiral.

Doing this can sometimes bring up some stuff that I was avoiding looking at. When that happens, I remind myself that I’m looking at this through a lens of perspective. I can change any perspective that is not serving my highest good. If I have trouble seeing a healthy perspective, I go in search of it. I may search out Ted Talks, Byron Katie’s work, YouTube videos, and/or read books and articles to help me move out an old belief that is not serving me in a productive way. The healthier I am body, mind, and soul, the more I get to serve others from a loving place. That is what makes all this work worth it!

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Available in audio, ebook, and paperback from most major online book retailers)—click on title for more information

Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace #229

I’m grateful I became health conscious instead of a health prisoner. Here’s what is funny about us humans. We will often see the truth of something in one area of our lives or someone else’s, but not be able to connect it to other areas or our own lives. We also might see the big picture of how something is true out in the world, and then not be able to reign it enough to see how that means if it is true out there, it is true in the heart too for our individual lives. Health is the perfect example of this for me. I was someone who had health issues for many years, but never connected that my self-abuse, self-contempt, self-hatred, self-neglect, and unhealed traumas. They were pieces to why my body was working against me. I couldn’t connect that if we are made up of energy and the energy I’m putting into my body is toxic, I’m going to attract toxic things to my body. I was a prisoner of my health. My perspectives (thoughts and beliefs) about my health kept me prisoner. I hope you’ve been following along with this series, because if you have you might be having alarm bells go off right now if you’ve been paying attention.

When I was in a toxic relationship, I was having all these issues with my sexual and reproductive organs. I felt physically ill more than I didn’t. My body at one point shut down as it was screaming NO MORE! I was in another toxic relationship where I couldn’t poop at my boyfriend’s house, even if I stayed there for days. My body was literally full of shit, as I was in complete denial to see how toxic the the relationship I was in really was. Another time, I had gained 20 additional pounds and I was in a battle to get it off. I looked at my body with disgust and then busted my ass exercising and starving myself as the weight kept coming on. I couldn’t see that where I was putting my energy was in what I DIDN’T WANT, so I was creating more of it.

As I got mentally, emotionally, and spiritually better, my health started to improve in a natural way. People would tell me that I looked ten years younger. Better than looking younger, my body felt so much better. At 40, a doctor told me my labs were as close to perfect health as he has seen. This was right when I was graduating college and starting to write blogs on FromALovingPlace.com. I had stopped doing the intense workouts and began to find ones that a my body loved, like nature walks and yoga. I didn’t have to be in pain to lose the weight, which was a message I had been told so many times. It’s a perspective that I bought into, and actually caused resistance for me because I don’t like being in pain LOL. I didn’t exercise for a long time because believing in those messages. Remember perspectives are our power or our prison.

This doesn’t mean I don’t have issues, believe me, I have things come up, but they are always there to teach me something. I just have to remain open enough to listen. This is how I stay health conscious instead of being a health prisoner. If I believe that things happen to me and not for me, I’m prisoner. If I believe that things happen for me, not to me, I’m in the power to change, grow, and expand from whatever I’m faced with. Those two beliefs feel very different in the body. They create different energy in the body. If I’m working against my body by being in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, and trying to conquer it—I’m screwing myself! Now, I focus on what I want to see more of with my body, which is love, abundance, and peace and I make health choices from there. Instead of focusing on what my body can’t do or where it isn’t, I focus on what I can do. I’m grateful my body is my vessel of learning and absorbing for this life. My body has so much to teach me, I just have to remain open to listen.

I’m so grateful I learned how to be health conscious, but just like everything else, it takes daily work and daily practice to stay present to what my body is telling me, and just because I hear what my body is telling me, doesn’t mean I always want to listen, but the more I stay aligned with love, abundance, and peace, the more willing I am to do the work. One perspective that has put the passion behind my daily work to live health conscious is that not taking care of my body is a form of self-abuse and self-neglect. Whatever we project out comes back. If I’m projecting out that I accept abuse and neglect, I will get that back in the relationships I attract to my life. Those relationships can be in my career, personal, physical, or spiritual life, depending on where my energy is focused. That gives me the drive to stay aligned with the energy of love, abundance, and peace DAILY!

Today, I commit to doing the work to stay health conscious. I know where my mind needs to be in order for me to do the best work for my body—aligned with love, abundance, and peace. As I’ve talked about before on Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace, making lists about self-care can be very helpful, because when we really need self-care is when our minds are trapped inside a box of chaos (prison) that is filled with the energy of fear, lack, and separation. The directions are on the outside of the box written in the energy of love, abundance, and peace. That is the energy that frees us from the chaos. Knowing the tools we need to get out of the box before we get into the box, is a sure way of not being stuck in the box for too long. Here are some of the tools that work best to keep me health conscious:

  • Loving myself exactly the way I am
  • Healthy self-talk
  • Taking nature walks
  • Making time for social walks
  • Mediating
  • Tapping (EFT)
  • Doing exercises I enjoy (the Simply Fit Board with weights for me)
  • Making self-care a priority (Shaming ourselves is self-abuse)
  • stretching and conscious movement exercises (This helps me feel areas of my body that are holding onto toxic energy)
  • Being conscious of food and drink choices—paying attention to how they feel processing them and how they effect the health of my organs (overindulging in food, alcohol, drugs, etc is a form of self-abuse)
  • Listening to what my body needs (I only can do this when my mind is in a healthy mindset)
  • Asking/praying for guidance on how to move the blocked energy in my body
  • Being open to seeing the lessons my body is trying to teach me
  • Healing past traumas
  • Aligning with love, abundance, and peace DAILY!
  • Listening to audiobooks that I’m drawn to mental, emotional, and/or spiritual health
  • Reading books and/or articles that I’m drawn to about healthy living
  • Writing

There is no order to this list, and this is my list based on the life lessons I’ve learned. We have to figure out our own lists because not everything that works for me will work for you, and vice versa. Some people need to have a solid practice of specific rituals they do every day, and that is what works for them. Some may need the community of supporters to help to keep them accountable. I’ve needed different things at different times. If going to church every Sunday contributes to your energy of love, abundance, and peace, then that is meant to be on your list. The only suggestion I have for anyone making their own list is really understand the difference in what feeds your energy of fear, lack, and separation and what feeds your energy of love, abundance, and peace. If you put things on your list that link you to the energy of fear, lack, and separation (activities, ideas, practices, thoughts, and/or beliefs that cause you to feel fear, shame, or guilt) you will stay a health prisoner.

One of the perspectives that kept me in the energy of fear, lack, and separation was my negative attachment to the word “should”. If my thoughts go to I should be… or if I’m told you should… I feel it in my body. Sometimes it’s guilt, other times it’s shame, but overall it’s the messages that tap into thoughts and beliefs that are linked into the fear, lack, and separation that lie within me. Part of living consciously is paying attention to how our bodies and minds react when something feels right and when something doesn’t.

If you need more help deciphering, I invite you do go back and read through past Daily Aligning with Love, Abundance, and Peace posts that guide you through this process (an easy way to scroll through these is at Facebook.com/LettersfromaBetterMe. You can also find a lot of insights in my 90-Day A Better Me Series (it’s free, just tap the name). Specifically for women, I have written the book Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (click title for more information). This process happens in layers, more will always be revealed. Just stay open to the process and please don’t beat yourself up as you learn what works and what doesn’t for you. All that does is keep you in the energy of fear, lack, and separation, and the answers all lie in the energy of love, abundance, and peace.

With Love, Abundance, and Peace,

©Rachael Wolff 2021

Author of Letters from a Better Me: How Becoming an Empowered Woman Transforms the World (Click title for more information)

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90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 83 – Taking Responsibility for Inviting Dark Energy into Our Internal Homes

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Part III: Living the Journey

Making the Now Count: Rebuilding our Lives

Day 83: Taking Responsibility for Inviting the Dark Energy into Our Internal Homes

“I think we are all advised to keep on nodding terms with the people we used to be, whether we find them attractive company or not. Otherwise they turn up unannounced and surprise us, come hammering on the mind’s door at 4 A.M. of a bad night and demand to know who deserted them, who betrayed them, who is going to make amends.”

-Joan Didion

We are the only ones who can invite dark toxic energy into our internal homes. We are the only ones who can turn our homes into dilapidated shacks by not taking care of them. No one is to blame for how we feel inside of us, but we are responsible. The outside world may take away choices from specific situations and we may be led down some paths that our mere physical survival is a miracle—Inside we have choices. We can write whatever story we want about our internal lives. We can connect and/or disconnect to any perspective of truth, story, feeling, and/or thought. We just have to be open enough to see that inside us is where true freedom lies.

In Part II, I wrote about accepting our pasts and releasing the unknown future. The more we can get into the NOW, the less likely that those stories from the past and the attachments to some unknown future will be used to tear apart our internal homes. Trauma therapy uses techniques to help detach a person from the story of their trauma. This doesn’t mean the trauma didn’t happen, but the story of it is what keeps it hurting us now even if the actual trauma happened decades ago.

When we let these stories live inside of us, we are living within a dilapidated shack that needs a re-model to make it the internal home of our dreams. The problem is when our internal world has a dilapidated shack at the center of it; we invite dark and toxic energy into our internal world on a regular basis. We actually are comfortable in that energy because that is where we internally live. We attract people in the physical world who will bring us the energy we feed on to comfortably live within our internal worlds. If we are attached to an internal world filled with chaos, we attract chaos. If we are attached to an internal world filled with fear, shame, blame, guilt, shame, judgment, hate, and vengeance—YOU GOT IT! The Universe will give you what you are asking by what you are projecting out. If your words to the Universe don’t match what is going on inside of you, what is going on inside of you will trump any words you speak. The darkness we invite in is our teacher for some VERY important lessons.

We are responsible for any darkness in our internal homes or dilapidated shacks. Every home will have dark spots, but if we are willing to see them, shine the light on them, and clean up that area where the darkness touched—WE HEAL!  We learn the lesson the teacher brought us. We get better! We strengthen the light within us.

Part of the process to being a better me is being able to see our own darkness with clarity. Our darkness has a beautiful purpose. It can serve us if we are willing to look at it instead of letting it grow, fester, and spread. When we attract someone to our lives that shows us our internal chaos, we have the opportunity to clean up our own darkness. We can’t assign this cleanup, remodel, and/or gut job to anybody else. If we want to change, we have to take the responsibility to look at ourselves when presented by the darkness in our physical world. If we are attaching to it, we bring it inside of us and we’ve invited it in.

6 Steps to Transforming the Darkness within Our Internal Homes

  1. Recognize the dark energy festering inside of you that was triggered by an outside source (person, animal, event, object, etc.). How are you responsible for inviting this energy in? What about this outside source created your own darkness to stir up inside of you? What about this source are you attaching to?
  2. See thought options that can shine light on your darkness. Don’t focus on changing your thoughts here, just look at your options of thoughts. What thoughts could bring peace, calm, joy, compassion, empathy, trust, faith, hope, freedom, positivity, purpose, etc. to the dark room in your home? These are your cleanup products and tools to help you fix-up any space the darkness affected. Once you know your options…
  3. Choose an action to help you turn your light on. The light switch can be prayer, dance, meditation, yoga, conscious breathing, mindfulness practices, walking, consciously exploring nature, and the list goes on and on. Many of these tools have been mentioned throughout the series.
  4. Spot the toxic waste left behind from past darkness. Be careful because toxic waste can be tricky to handle. It likes to spread poison within our homes making the structure weak. Like mold, it can hide inside our walls. The more open we are to let the darkness pass through us, the more we will be able to see any toxic spots that are trying to linger, fester, grow and spread. These are those deep belief systems (perspectives of truth) that are latching on to keep the dark thoughts that were triggered alive. The thoughts that were triggered are exposing some of the toxins left behind from long ago they show themselves as entitlement, envy, greed, sloth, vengeance, cruelty, victimhood, and rage—Just to name a few. All of these are derivatives of FEAR.
  5. START CLEANING! You see it; now clean it up with the products and tools you’ve been given. The more you get these toxic energies cleaned out, the closer you get to living and leading a purpose-filled life with a deep connection to your Divine source. Your light gets brighter the more you clean out.
  6. Be grateful for what the dark energy within you exposed. Be grateful for the teacher and the lesson. Now, the old you might have sunk into the depths of shame and guilt when you invited dark energy into your home. You might have contributed to making rooms darker and turning off more lights to the point where things around you began to fall apart and crumble. The better you has the opportunity to grow and expand from the exposed darkness. You have learned how to shine your light effectively into your home and find the secrets hidden in the walls. This is something to be EXTREMELY grateful for.

We now can create an even better space than we had before. We took responsibility for our mess and cleaned it up! So embrace the darkness and what it shows us. Fighting it and/or numbing it (addictions) will only make it stronger. We want to learn from what it has to show us. We want it to help us spot the areas we need to clean up and re-purpose. You have all the products and tools you need in this very moment. The more you use the tools you already have, the more that will become available to you in order to grow and expand from the place you are.

If you are reading this piece separately, I invite you to go back and see what you’ve missed in the series. The 90-Day A Better Me Series is like a puzzle. You want to have all the pieces to see the whole picture. Here’s a quick link to the category so that you can go back and explore what you’ve missed: https://fromalovingplace.com/category/90-day-a-better-me-series/

For best results: I suggest reading the series all the way through. You may find that by doing this you are led to people, places, and/or things that open up new doors and pathways to lead you to be living a purpose-filled life—Miracles abound! You just have to take the journey and trust that at this moment, you are exactly where you are meant to be.


With Love and Gratitude,


Rachael Wolff ©2019

Today’s Letter from A Better Me: 90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 83 – Taking Responsibility for Inviting the Dark Energy into My Internal Home


90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 82 – Implementing My Healthy Boundaries in Dark Situations

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90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

Part III: Living the Journey

Making the Now Count: Rebuilding our Lives

Day 82: Implementing My Healthy Boundaries in Dark Situations

Dear Self,

I’ve learned so much on this journey of implementing my boundaries. What I’ve realized in my practice of using my healthy tools is that I no longer take on other people’s darkness. I used to feel like I had to engage in the darkness (i.e. fear) to get my point across or not be walked on by someone in their darkness, but what I realized is that by engaging in their darkness only makes me feed and spread mine. I definitely DON’T want to be doing that. I’ve learned how to listen while being lovingly unattached to their energy. I can’t say I do this perfect every time, but the more I do it, the better I get.

One of my biggest challenges in implementing my healthy boundaries is to STAY PRESENT!!! It can be very easy to be caught up in the story whether it is mine or someone else’s. When I realize I’m feeding the darkness of a story, I need to pull back and re-group because it means I got out of the present moment. People who are REALLY stuck in their darkness will have story after story filled with blame, shame, guilt, judgment, victimhood, and hate it may be aimed at me or someone else, but if a person isn’t taking any personal responsibility for where they are, they are lost in darkness. I don’t help them by feeding into it. If and when I stay present, my other natural healthy boundaries fall into line. If I’m challenged to stay present, it just means I have to work a little harder to stay in my light.

It is such a blessing not to feel obligated to take on someone else’s darkness. When I remind myself of that, I don’t feel the weight of someone else’s energy. I don’t try to control their journey or get tied to their story. I can step back and remind myself that the only person I am responsible for is me. What they choose to do with their energy is their business. If I shine my light and they see it, it means they have a want to get out of their own darkness. If they don’t see it, they are comfortable where they are and they will be until the darkness gets too much for them to handle.

My calmness can help to ease and lift some of the dark energy in the room. If my darkness isn’t triggered by their darkness it brings light into the situation whether they want to be apart of it or not. I’m protected in the calm. I can think clearly when I’m calm, present, and not attaching to any of their story.

When I struggle with implementing my tools, I pray! PRAY! And PRAY SOME MORE! There are times where I feel the fear creeping up in me so I know that I’m not fueling the energy of what I stand for and those are the times I need to pray the most. I pray for guidance and that the words coming out of my mouth are will come from a loving place. I pray that I’m guided to take action in a way that serves the best possible outcome in the situation. I pray for the courage and strength to stay in my light. I know when I pray; I’m focused on being the best I can be in the moment.

People who are trapped in their darkness aren’t seeking to hurt me personally. They may be trying to hurt what I represent in their heads, but what I represent in their heads has nothing to do with who I really am. It is a distorted image created by their own darkness. This is not personal. They are looking at me through a story based on perspectives of truth led by fear. I may be the villain or the vandal in their story because I’m not engaging in their darkness with them and that’s ok. They are where they are. If I keep feeling, thinking, believing, and acting from a loving place, I’m being true to me. I won’t leave the situation with any regrets because I will trust exactly how the exchange went. I will take the lessons I need to make me better, and then I get to move on. I’m free!

Today I’m Grateful

  1. I’m so incredibly grateful that I have the tools to keep me out of someone else’s darkness.
  2. I’m grateful I have healthy boundaries because it means I’m taking care of me.
  3. I’m grateful that I know that I’m always exactly where I’m supposed to be in this moment.
  4. I’m grateful for the power of long deep breaths.
  5. I’m grateful that EVERYDAY I do the work, I get better.


With Love and Gratitude,


A Better Me


Rachael Wolff © 2019

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90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 70 – Doing What I Love

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90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

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Day 70: Doing What I Love

Dear Self,

You are just as important as all of the people I serve, so I’m honoring our journey by committing to do things I love daily. I want move through life with the energy of doing what I love to do. I know that by doing this, I will manifest more of what I love and will attract others around me who share my passions. There is no good reason not to spend time doing what I love to do daily. I know I might not be able to everything I love in one day, but I will commit to doing something I love EVERYDAY!

Here is a list of things I love doing:

  • Dancing to music with positive messages
  • Writing
  • Walking around the lake to look at the birds gathering at the island at the center of the lake
  • Nature walks and hiking off-trail
  • Going to the dog beach with my dog
  • Laughing
  • Yoga
  • Quality time with my family
  • Quality time with my friends
  • Quiet time to meditate and quiet my brain
  • Helping others discover their best selves
  • Eating flavorful foods
  • Spending Time Communicating with the Divine

With this list there is no excuses!  I can even add more things I love, because as I engage in this energy, more space will open up. I know if I don’t make time for doing the things I love, it’s because I’m not on my priority list and when I’m not on my priority list, things fall through the cracks. So, why not? I deserve my own time! The people I love deserve me to be operating as the best version of myself too.

Today I’m Grateful

  1. I’m grateful that I can MAKE time to do the things I love.
  2. I’m grateful for the energy I feel when I’m doing the things I love.
  3. I’m grateful for the joy that I feel when get to share my love with others.
  4. I’m grateful for today as an opportunity to do what I love to do.
  5. I’m grateful when I notice when it’s a good time to do what I love.


With Love and Gratitude,


A Better Me


Rachael Wolff ©2019

Are you doing what you love? 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 70 – Doing What We Love



90-Day A Better Me Letters Series: Day 52 – I See My Value

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90-Day A Better Me Letters Series

Part II: A Journey of Perspective

What Launches Us Forward: The Stable Foundation

Day 52: I See My Value

Dear Universe,

I AM! Yes, I AM and that is enough to make me valuable. I AM complete in this very moment. I can finally see my value in being exactly where I am and how I am right now. I don’t have to be any more or any less than what I am right now to give my life value. When I do my best, learn from life’s lessons and share who I am with others, I am walking a path to shine my light brighter. That is what I’m choosing to do with my life, but that doesn’t determine my value.

The color of my skin, gender I am, way I look, things I have, money I make, relationships that succeed/fail, skills I acquire, and career path don’t define my value! With or without any of these details about my journey, I AM VALUABLE to this life.

I get to choose if my value comes from my light or my dark. Am I going to use love or fear to teach and be taught? Am I going to contribute to lessons that light (love) has to offer the world or the lessons that darkness (fear) has to offer the world? Which path I choose is up to me.

I’m choosing to spread as much love that I can. I’m choosing to give from a loving place. I want to learn from the dark parts of me how to create more love from the lessons I’ve learned from fear. I want to turn up my dimmer switch to shine brighter.

I see my value and I’m choosing to make the most of it by investing time in making me the best version of myself that I can be. I want to give to the world from that place. I want to give to the world from my sense of value and worth. I want to shine the light within me as bright as I can, so that I can help others see their own light.

I see the value in my darkness too. It is apart of me. It is a part of how I learn to be and do better. It is apart of my journey. At my times of darkness, my value is still there. My value can be in what my darkness is teaching others and what it’s teaching me. My value doesn’t fluctuate based on whether I’m feeling good our bad about myself. The only thing that changes is my ability to see it because of how much light or darkness I’m covering it with. I have the choice to be in the dark or in the light at any time. Whichever one I choose has valuable lessons on this journey of life.

My prayer

Please help me to see my value even in my darkness. Please help me to see the lessons and the ways to add light when I’m stuck. I know I’m connected to you when I choose to live in my light. The brighter I shine my light, the more I feel connected. Please help me honor that connection by accepting and loving myself exactly how I am. I know you made me with your love, please help me find ways to live in the light that created me in.

Today I’m Grateful 

  1. I’m so grateful for the gift of life
  2.  I’m so grateful for my ability to shine as bright as I choose to
  3. I’m grateful for all the chances I get to bring more love into the world
  4. I’m so incredibly grateful for the lessons that teach me the value of my life
  5. I’m grateful I AM!

With Love and Gratitude,

A Better Me


Rachael Wolff ©2019

Did you read today’s companion piece? 90-Day A Better Me Series: Day 52 – Seeing Our Own Value

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Lessons from Nature: Beauty from Within

When we look at the world, we can know where we are in our heads by what we focus on in our external world. Are we looking at others judging them for not being good enough? Are we seeing  and/or engaging in gossip about other people whether they are in our personal lives or in some form of media? Are we attacking people for having a different views than our own? If we are doing these things we are feeding the dis-ease within ourselves. Our radar looks for the negativity around us when we are feeling negative inside our own minds. We are not nourishes ourselves. Think of a flower that is properly nourished. The colors are more vibrant, the leaves are healthy, and the roots are strong. We are just like that flower our roots can pull from the energy of love, which properly nourishes us, and creates us to show the world our vibrant colors. We can pull from the energy of fear, which steals our nutrients, and shows the world our rotting leaves and our muted colors. Becoming aware we are not nourishing ourselves with the energy that will create health, beauty, and color, is the first step. The healthier we get inside–stopping the self-abuse, we start aiming our energy towards love. We start feeding our roots the good stuff. Our colors start to brighten and we look at the world through a different lens. We start paying attention to the heroes who show others compassion, the faces whose beauty shine through their kindness, and we pray for people struggling to find their way to love. Just like that, the ground becomes fertile for more flowers to bloom and show us their colors, which may be different, but that doesn’t make them any less beautiful when they are shining from their light within.


With Love and Gratitude,

Rachael Wolff ©2018